Anxiety is an epidemic that is gripping some in our society. More and more people are experiencing anxiety at a high level more often. Anxiety is not something that is talked about in school and it is not discussed often in households. It is important we confront our anxiety head on, so we can learn how to overcome anxiety altogether.
Outing Shame and Fear
Anxiety needs to be a priority that is talked about in families, circles of trust, and society. I can speak of anxiety because, I too, have a deep relationship with it. In the past two years, I’ve had some wins over my anxiety. But today, I am choosing to out my shame and my fears. I hope in doing so, others will speak their truth and by doing so their anxiety will lessen.
Anxiety Comes From Fear
Hello, I’m Kitsy Higgins and for me, anxiety coincides with when I am fearful. I think of something I want to achieve or do, but then anxiety hits. The fear of what or what might not happen takes hold of me. For example, I want to spend time with friends who I don’t see often. Rather than going out and enjoying myself, I unfortunately, allow my anxiety to get the best of me. I end up staying at home because the fear of being seen and feeling trapped has kept me from a pleasant night out. There are many places in my life where anxiety controls me. It’s important for me to know what lies behind the anxiety. I really need to break it apart and analyze what fear or belief is really holding me back. There are four main fears that create most of the anxiety in my life. I work with these fears constantly; I heal them as I move forward to a life filled with joy, happiness, love and abundance and I want to share them with you today so you can learn how to overcome anxiety too!
The Fear of Death
I have encountered this fear many times in my life. I was paralyzed, for most of my life, with the fear of dying. Driving a car or taking on a risky situation was scary. At any moment, I could lose my physical body. It wasn’t always easy dealing with and thinking about death, that moment when our physical reality ends. It is so easy to let that fear to take over your life and your emotions. You can’t fully live a life of joy and happiness, if you’re wrapped up by the fact that at any moment it all could end. I’m going to die some day; I’ve accepted the fact. I’ve also chosen to look at this fear straight on and to move forward with a life of joy.
How to Overcome Anxiety Stemmed By Death
Eventually I realized, to learn how to overcome anxiety, I needed to ask myself an important question. Where am I truly not living? Once that question was asked, a whole spectrum of clarity opened up before me. I was able to shift death’s grip on me. My whole life blossomed as I stepped out of that fear. I shifted from thinking how everything was going to be taken away from me to just embracing and living my life in the now. I did find places in my life that I was not being myself and I was able to change them. I have taken some risks and stepped out of my comfort zone. My life is now a life truly lived. It is so easy for us to get stuck in those moments of pain and stagnation, but it’s so important that we are present in our lives. We need to celebrate and appreciate our lives daily. Our time may be over today, tomorrow or many years from now. But that one day should not stop us from living today and every day after this! Happiness is a choice – choose it! Choose a lived life!
The Fear of Scarcity
It is so easy to be in a place where you’re scared of not having enough money. Meanwhile, as scarcity grips you, you’re actually creating more of it! You could even be holding back incoming help from others. My fear of scarcity is wondering where the next dollar is going to come from, and wondering how am I going to pay the next round of bills.
Scarcity and lack are two of the top causes of anxiety in people’s lives. We are so consumed by being able to do that next thing or to purchase that next thing. We forget that we can just release that anxiety and calmly remind ourselves that we live in abundance in all areas of our lives. Relief comes in many forms. It may be in help, in a job, or in compassion. There is really nothing to worry about when it comes to scarcity. The squirrel or the deer outside do not freak out where their next meal will come from. They just trust. The world we live in is abundant. Money is just a form of energy. When we work ourselves up, we get so stuck in that lack, scarcity, and we actually push the money away.
To learn how to overcome anxiety, try this the next time your bank account gets close to overdrawn; instead of freaking out and worrying, allow it to just be and tell yourself to relax. Check to see what happens the next time that you don’t really know how it’s going to work out, be patient. More times than not, you’ll receive the exact amount of the bill you owe. Your finances may get sorted out, a winning lottery ticket may cover your differences or someone may offer you money. So instead of having that anxiety and a moment of worry just be present with your life stay calm. And stay out of your head. Allow yourself to visualize where the money is going to come from. It’s already in your energy, it’s already going to happen and it’s already there. Just trust that relief will be there when you need it. Anxiety is just that fear of something not working out. But it will work out; it always does. I’ve had times in my life where my bank account was at a negative $200. It was scary! Scary! It always worked out; it all changed when I loved myself, remained in the present, and remained calm. Freaking out would have created more of the same. The money will be there. The Universe/God has our back. Release the anxiety around anything to do with scarcity and lack.
How to Overcome Anxiety Stemmed By Fear of Scarcity
Ask this question out loud and to the Universe when dealing with lack or scarcity: “Okay, where is the money?” When you ask, look around your body. I know it sounds weird, but the money is already around you, in your energy field. You just have to search energetically to find it!
The Fear of the Unknown
This is a big fear. Let’s say a friend invites you over to their house for a party and you say yes. Your ego, the subconscious mind, starts worrying about all of the awful things that could happen. People may look at you differently because you dressed a specific way, or someone may make fun of you. It’s so easy to let the fear of the unknown rule your life. It’s very easy to stay safely in your comfort zone, and do nothing, just because it feels safer. Don’t let the fear of the unknown keep you in your safe place.
How to Overcome Anxiety Stemmed By The Unknown
When something new is happening in your life, don’t be afraid to ask yourself one important question. What unknown am I fearing in this situation? You may be scared about a litany of things. Physically list all of the things that could go wrong. If you don’t bring them to light, they will just stay hidden. When you’re finished with the list you can burn the paper or just leave the paper be. It’s very important to realize you’re experiencing fear of the unknown and that it’s okay. The fear is just a sign that you are about to do something fun or out of your comfort zone and your ego doesn’t know how to deal with your expressed feelings. Don’t let the fear of the unknown take away what will probably be a pleasurable and fun experience. Fear of the unknown is debilitating and it may be holding you back in different areas of your life. When you realize you’re being fearful, embrace it. Allow yourself to experience new things, and to meet new people! Get out there!
The Fear of Being YOU
This may sound super easy to beat, but it isn’t always. If you are different like me, people have often made fun of you. It has always been easier to act like everyone else and to just blend in. When people make fun of you, it’s easier to retreat back into conformity. The thing is, being yourself is your superpower! Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve been called names because I’m funny, unique, and weird. I’ve held back from telling a joke, because I didn’t want to be called dumb. But my humor is me, and by not showing who I really am, I’m being a disservice to myself. This disservice is only to me, not anyone else. I know God has made me the way I am, and that I may be different than most. I’m not the average person, and neither are you. Don’t be afraid of standing out and being the person God has made you to be. Being different than others is a great thing. It can be uncomfortable in a world where you stand among the minority. Remember, minority isn’t just a color or a gender thing. Ask yourself which is better, to be your true self or to keep hiding. Stand up and be counted as you truly are. One of the coolest discoveries I’ve made recently is that you’ll find your tribe, or they’ll find you. You will never know who your tribe is if you keep blending in! You might even end up screaming , “THESE ARE MY PEOPLE”. Say yes to your uniqueness, and things will click into place. You’ll understand why God made you who you are. A great, simple question to ask if you have forgotten who you are is “Who am I?”
These underlying fears are creating anxiety in our lives. It won’t be until they’re acknowledged and examined that they stop controlling lives and you can learn how to overcome anxiety. Life is meant to be fun and exciting! Life is meant to be an adventure! You don’t have to leave the country to find adventure and life changing experiences. Just choose to live your life. Let’s make a commitment today. We will decrease the anxiety voice in our head. We will be determined to live our best lives for the rest of our lives! One last question. What type of life do you want to create today?
Utilizing her MBA and over a decade of personal development she can aid her clients in shifting their life and business to the next level. She has been featured in the media for her mediumship and coaching abilities. She lives outside of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania with her husband Ryan, and two kids, Reiley & Colin.
- Moving On From Anxiety - December 16, 2019
